Men and Commitment Issues

One of these days I went on Facebook to go through my newsfeed and see what my friends have been up to. I saw this thought provoking post.

If you are like me you just scroll through the newsfeed because your 15mb that is supposed to last a week usually finishes after 3 days. If your post is really good I press the like button. If it is so thought provoking I might have to comment (#JustSaying its not pride if I see your post and pass by, it is mb deficiency lol).

One of my gazilion Facebook friends posted, "If you find a girl that is willing to go through hell to keep the relationship going, you really shouldn't take her love for granted". My response read, "Odds are you wouldn't keep the relationship going just 'cause she's willing to go through hell. People respond better to people who seem not to care #Fact". He's response was in agreement with mine.

Another reason I might have forgotten to add was that men often times are not 'ready' for serious relationships. 

I have come to realize that a guy saying, "I'm not ready to get married" is the same thing as  "I'm not ready for a serious relationship" and it is also the same thing as,"I'm not ready for commitment"

In other words if you hear a guy start a statement with,"I'm not ready..." and that statement is addressing your relationship, it's best you cut your losses and run for the hills. 

I saw another post on Facebook recently and I had to repost in on Facebook and instagram. "No matter how good of a woman you are, you will never be good enough for a man who isn't 'ready' ". 

It's just the truth. The thing is some guys do skip the part that they are not ready. Some actually do say it but not in the actually words. You have to decipher it by really listening. 

Men have trouble with communication in general. 'Two and half men' is a classic tv series of how men communicate. Saying things like, "She let me put my trendsetter in her back room whoop-whoop". "You dipping the marshmallow and the guacamole?". 

I thinks it's best to be plain. No girl wants to date a guy for 4 years starting at the age of 21 only to be 'dumped' on her 25th birthday not cause you found a younger model (which happens most of the time) but because you are not 'ready'. 

This brings us to the question, "Why are men so scared of commitment?". Funny it's the same guy who says, 'I'm not ready...' that would get married to another girl barely 6 months after your breakup because 'he saw what he wanted'. 

It is like a trend nowadays that men wait for one of the guys in their clique to get the love bug and then,  they realize they need to be in a serious relationship and probably get married soon after too.

Some can't seem to wrap their head around the fact that they might have to 'dip just in the marshmallow' so they gotta have options. Others could just care less.

PS. To all girls out there, be wary of time wasters.

If someone wants to be with you, they'll do EVERYTHING in their power to be with you. No excuses.