IT’S A GOOD GIRL – BAD BOY THING
Check out this scenario. You are sitting in a restaurant and watch as a boy and a girl come in. The boy looks more on the rough side. He has studs both on his ear and nose, he sags his jean and the hair cut he has on just reads ‘ruthless’. The girl on the other hand is more on the soft side. Good hair, little or no make-up yet nothing serious. They sit together; hold each other’s hands and the way they make eye contact just shows to the whole universe that they are in a relationship. Then you begin to wonder,”Why is it a good girl – bad boy thing?” as you can’t seem to get the images off your mind for days to come.
As illustrated in the scenario above, so it is found in other places and campuses other than Obafemi Awolowo University. It has been played around it that Bad Boys like Good Girls and Good Boys like Bad Girls but how true is this? I don’t know but I think there is a bit of rationality in it. However, it doesn’t mean that cases of Bad Boy - Bad Girl relationship or Good Boy - Good Girl relationship haven’t been recorded. This according to the theories of mate selection in ‘Homogamy’ but this is not the issue at hand.
The Bad Boy - Good Girl phenomenon is a Complementary needs Theory. It was stipulated by Robert Winch in 1963 and it believes that in certain areas of personality, people of opposite characteristics attract. The good girl probably likes her bad boy because she needs something to be interesting in her ‘boring’ life while the bad boy likes the ‘saint’ of a girl because he needs something ‘pure’ in his life. It may not be the same for others. It may just be because of the sex and the bad boys do better in bed or maybe it’s because the bad boy actually wants to change. Hmmmm, who knows? The bad boy is every girl’s dream some believe. He reads danger, he’s unpredictable in his actions, like to ride the motorcycle and drinks like there is no tomorrow. They say it results to the fact that girls are good in their orientation. The problem only starts when the bad boy wants to be ‘everly’ bad and that’s when the relationship starts to down the drain.
He also probably wants his good girl to try ‘new things’ that are ridiculous on the sight of the girl or the girl just wants him to let go of the studs and he won’t agree. The cigarette and alcohol habit never stops too. The good girl then begins to realise that the relationship isn’t what she wants. The bad boy also may get bored with his relationship because the girlfriend won’t do stuffs with him which he terms as fun. The relationship then begins to lose his vigour. They just realise they don’t fit anymore, they are distant to each other and they fight...a lot. And at the end they say, “It was nice knowing you” and go their separate ways. You want to see an example? How about: Ryan Phillipe and Reese Witherspoon. Yeah that’s what I’m talking about.
It’s a Good Girl – Bad Boy thing but does it last? And you know they are bad boys for a reason so ...
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